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Re: eHarmony Sued For Discriminatory Actions

Fred Atkinson (
Fri, 1 Jun 2007 05:45:05 -0400

> [TELECOM Digest Editor's Note: Gay, or LGBT persons may wish to get
> in touch with attorney Todd Schneider in San Francisco in inquire
> about being added to the pending lawsuit. PAT]

Hi Pat,

I don't understand why the LGBT community would want someone who
is not well qualified to evaluate the dynamics of their relationships
to be providing such a service to them. It would probably turn into a
disaster (because of shortcomings in such unqualified evaluations) and
result in a lot more lawsuits from people being 'mismatched' because
of those shortcomings. Those lawsuits would probably be far more

There are plenty of sites that do offer this service and could have
been developed by people who are far more qualified to do it.

The students of Gallaudet University underwent DPN (Deaf President
Now) to bring about the first deaf president of Gallaudet University
because they wanted their education to be managed by someone who
understood (from having lived it) the problems faced by the Deaf
community (if you do not know about DPN, you should read a book
entitled 'The Week The World Heard Gallaudet'). They did not want the
Hearing (who did not live the Deaf experience) to be the ultimate
manager of their education (this did not mean that teachers from the
Hearing community could not teach them, just that they wanted their
deaf leader to be the ultimate manager of their educational affairs).
Would not the LGBT community want their own qualified professionals to
do the same for them and not rely on someone who hasn't lived their
own experience?

It makes very little sense to me. I would liken it to going to a
podiatrist to be evaluated for a problem with your hands (the dynamics
are not the same).

It would probably require Dr. Neil Clark Warren go back to pyschology
school to study a new speciality (or do a bunch of costly independent
research) to resolve this issue. I'm not entirely sure that that is
fair to him especially since other specialists are already more
qualified to do it. Why should he reinvent the wheel? The result
would probably not be as good as with someone who lived the

So now do we sue general practitioners for discrimination because
they do not provide pyschological services? Would you not be better
suited to choose an experienced mental health practitioner?

Do we sue psychologists who specialize in child psychology for not
providing counseling to adults as well? These adults can get refered
to a psychologist that specialize in their dynamics.

Do we sue magazines that specialize in writing about the Black
community for not writing about the White or Hispanic communities? Or
do we subscribe to a magazine that writes articles about events in our
own respective communities?

Do we sue Yahoo or Google for not providing dictionary services when
we could go to or for those services?

Do we sue the Reverend Farrakhan for not providing ministries to
Protestants or Catholics? What about atheists and agnostics?

How about The Washington Blade? Do we sue them because they
exclusively support the Gay community and not the Heterosexual
community? I don't think so.

It's just that I don't see it as a discrimination issue. I see it as
an issue of professional specialization.

Just my two cents worth.



[TELECOM Digest Editor's Note: Please see the first part of my reply
on the previous message. Substitute the word 'black' for the word
'gay'. Now you perhaps see where many GLBT activists are coming from.

And you are correct -- when the shoe is on the other foot, discrimin-
ation is not a lot of fun. In Australia, where GLBT 'rights' are very
strong, a couple of restaurant/tavern owners have specifically banned
_heterosexual_ people from using their establishment. _Many_ (not all,
but a substantial number of) LGBT Americans are making the comparison
to the white/black struggles in America a half-century ago. I am not
sure that is an accurate comparison, but it is a very common one these
days. PAT]

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